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Every parent should encourage their kids to do better and be better. However, all parents do not follow the same belief. Parents in different countries have different beliefs and they all think they are right. In United States, some mothers use abandonment and negativity to make their child a better person (Johnson, p.455, 2015). In Thailand, some parents use family support as a way to encourage their kids to do better (Thanakwang, p.176, 2015). In Japan, some parents use isolation and maltreatment to encourage their kids to do better (Kendall, p.458, 2013). Each culture thinks they can raise children by use of maltreatment, abuse, or family support but there is only one way.
In Japan, there is a group of mothers who use maltreatment as a way to encourage their kids to do better (Kendall, p.458, 2013). This method is also practiced by some family members in United States. Some Japanese mothers are very strict towards small things their children do (Kendall, p.458, 2013). They shout at the little things they do to keep their behavior under control (Kendall, p.458, 2013). Now, there comes a time when yelling at a child is necessary. But, sometimes Japanese women yell too much which cause the child to feel worthless (Kendall, p.458, 2013). Unnecessary yelling causes the child to turn out all signs of advice and become in a state where they can’t function with other people (Kendall, p.458, 2013). This also causes the child to have low faith in themselves which causes them to give up on their dreams and be filled with hate (Kendall, p.458, 2013). Unnecessary yelling does not encourage the child to do better. It cripples the child and encourage them to become a worse person (Kendall, p.458, 2013).
In Thailand, parents often encourage their children to do better by saying they are responsible for their family (Thanakwang, p.176, 2015). Thailand culture encourages family to support each other. While this is great to follow during certain events, it does not always encourage the child to be a better person (Thanakwang, p.176, 2015). Some children want to become educated and family support can get in the way of that. In the event that the child wants to become educated, the child must be allowed to become educated. Sometimes, the child needs education to move forward and sometimes the child needs it to be a better person. The cultures of Thailand may not fully agree with letting the child pursue their own selfish dreams (Thanakwang, p.176, 2015). But, life is not about survival all the time. Sometimes, life is about doing certain things and realizing that you did something with your life. Putting the obligation of the child to support their family is only good for encouragement if the child agrees to the obligation (Thanakwang, p.176, 2015). Otherwise, the child is being force to do something they do not want to do. During dark times, you are suppose to support your family. But, all times are not dark times and the child needs to be able to experience their own moments from time to time to encourage development.
In America, some parents encourage their kids to do better by giving them abuse (Johnson, p.455, 2015). There comes a time when abuse is effective and necessary. However, too much abuse does not encourage children to do better (Johnson, p.455, 2015). Some parents in America use mental abuse as a way to encourage the child to do better (Johnson, p.455, 2015). This abuse is negative and sometimes the child cry inside. This abuse also makes the child afraid to do things (Johnson, p.455, 2015). Abuse is only necessary when it is used to teach a child to do better. Some people over do it and this scars the child for life or encourage them to become a worse person. How much mental abuse or physical abuse is too much? It depends on the event vs the punishment. If the event is very small and you punish them more then needed, then the child will learn nothing and not proceed to becoming a better person. If the child tries to do something, and you punish them for not being able to finish fast, you are over doing the punishment. Not all kids learn at the same rate. Some kids need to move slow and some need to move fast. Don’t beat or abuse the kid to death to be perfect when they are doing the best they can (Johnson, p.455, 2015). Some parents over do it in America which makes them bad parents. It also causes the child to give up on their dreams and become filled with hate.
Cultures throughout the world think that they know the best way to encourage a child to be a better person, but they do not know the best way. If one where to look at the patterns of each culture, one would notice a common link between them. Parents who have bad intentions will produce bad results for their children. Parents who have good intentions will produce good results for their children. Parents must have self control when disciplining their children. Parents must also have self control of themselves to ensure that their children will succeed in life. All parents go through the same problems year after year. But, don’t let the job tell you how you should feel about your life. Jobs are for paying bills. They are not outlets for adults to use to dictate how to control their life or raise their children. Some parents unknowingly use their job and family as an excuse to treat their child like crap. Their child is innocent and does not deserve to be mistreated or obligated to do things they don’t want to do because of something you experience a long time ago. Culture needs to evolve and realize that progress is connected to encouraging a child to do better. If a child does better, it is because they followed the advice of someone who gave good intention advice. Doing better has a lot to do with moving forward. If a child is not moving forward one way, then you need to let a child do it another way. Parents are suppose to want what is best for their children and not what is best for them. The solution to encouraging a child to do better is allow them to follow a method that moves them forward in their own way. Moving forward has a different meaning to different people, but involves moving forward which counts in thing called “life.”
Reference:
Johnson, S. (2015). Substance Abuse and Parenting Among African American Mothers of Adolescents. Child & Adolescent Social Work Journal, 32(5), 455-463. doi:10.1007/s10560-015-0383-7
Kendall, S., Bloomfield, L., Appleton, J., & Kitaoka, K. (2013). Efficacy of a group-based parenting program on stress and self-efficacy among Japanese mothers: A quasi-experimental study. Nursing & Health Sciences, 15(4), 454-460. doi:10.1111/nhs.12054
Thanakwang, K. (2015). Family support, anticipated support, negative interaction, and psychological well-being of older parents in Thailand. Psychogeriatrics, 15(3), 171-178. doi:10.1111/psyg.12107
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